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A selection from
cover of book

photo of Keith and Virginia Laken
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Ant Hill Press
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Looking Back
What We've Learned About Being Lovers

Gin, on experimentation . . .

When I let go of my inhibitions that New Year's Eve and experienced multiple orgasms from "using Keith," I thought I had reached the pinnacle of my sexual experimentation. But, in reality, I had only reached a small plateau.

Since that night, sexual exploration has become an on-going part of my life. And I couldn't be more thankful!

I've finally learned that nothing is "wrong" or "bad" about sex - including devices, positions, or toys - as long as Keith and I agree that we both want to use them. It's fun, interesting, and, in many cases, necessary for us to use sexual variety to keep our physical intimacy alive and active.

And now I know I'm not alone in my thinking.

I monitor an on-line discussion group of people who are suffering from impotence due to prostate-cancer treatment, and I've been amazed and inspired by the lengths to which some people in this group will go to get their sex lives back. I've learned that when it comes to restoring potency, "anything that works" is a possibility, and should be considered without guilt or embarrassment.

While Keith and I don't do anything that could ever remotely be considered "bizarre," I am conscious of keeping an open mind to possibilities. I'm willing to try new toys, read sex-improvement books, and challenge my own instincts to continually make our sex life as interesting as possible.

And not only am I having more fun and enjoyment in my relationship with Keith, but I realize I could have been doing this all along.

Keith, on being a lover . . .

Today, I feel I can satisfy Gin like I've never been able to before - not just because of the sustainability I have from the

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