main menu   -   articles   -   prostate   -   stories   -   sexuality   -   resources   -   glossary   -   search from The Advanced PCa Menu The Companions Menu Coping With Death & Grief   I raised this issue on the Circle mailing list and got some wonderful responses. My original post and some of the replies are archived here. - Robert Young, Webmaster, Phoenix5 DEATH, GRIEF & RESPONSIBILITY My Post of 1/13/03 that prompted these replies. Responses From Women: GRIEF & WIDOWHOOD What Marie has discovered since she lost Steve OLDER WOMEN REHEARSE THE ROLE OF WIDOW Anne says it is quite common WE NEED TO INCREASE OUR INDEPENDENCE NOW Carol realizes she needs to learn new things now LEARNING FROM PAINFUL SITUATIONS Sharlene on how she coped THERE ARE NO FIRE DRILLS FOR GRIEF BY LOSS But Cathy gives resources one can use HIS GREATEST GIFT WAS GIVING ME CONFIDENCE Josy reflects on what her husband gave her HARDER IF THINGS ARE LEFT UNSAID OR UNDONE Pat on how a helpful form sparked discussions I HAD CLOSURE BY HELPING HIM IN ANY WAY I COULD Carole found ways to move forward A DAUGHTER'S GRIEF Myrt cries because she can't get another chance to be there BEING THERE FOR MY LOVED ONES MADE ME A BETTER PERSON "Kay" relates what helped her to get through the grief IT HELPED ME TO FOCUS ON WHAT I DID NOT WANT Jan got some valuable advice from a friend TWO THINGS THAT HELPED ME BEYOND BELIEF Susan relates what worked for her Responses From Men: MY MOTHER' DEATH Daryl's perspective of the effect on his father TIME TO GET OUR AFFAIRS IN ORDER Bob's recommendation as a hospice volunteer ONLY TIME HEALS AN OPEN WOUND Dave says no one can do it for you Other Material: WE NEED A SIGN OF OUR GRIEF So others know we mourners are not crazy, says Molly Sower Sugarman IF TOMORROW NEVER COMES The lyrics of this Garth Brooks song say much THINGS I SHOULD HAVE DONE Marie offers some advice Resources: PERSONAL DATA FORM Saved in RTF format (opens with Word) for easy printing. It covers all final wish items and should be completed by anyone, not merely those with advanced PCa. Scanned with updated Norton's Antivirus. PROMISE A mailing list for those grieving a loss. It also offers help and support to those with a spouse, partner, or family member in the last stages of life. Go to ADVANCED PCA MENU COMPANIONS MENU   main menu   -   articles   -   prostate   -   stories   -   sexuality   -   resources   -   glossary   -   search Unless otherwise stated and credited, the content of Phoenix5 (P5) is by and the opinion of and copyright © 2000 Robert Vaughn Young. All Rights Reserved. P5 is at <http://www.phoenix5.org>. P5's policy regarding privacy and right to reprint are at www.phoenix5.org/infopolicy.