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I must say that my sexuality has improved since my husband's RRP [radical retropubic prostatectomy].
It has been almost six months since we've had intercourse but I really don't miss it
very much.
My partner's inability has nurtured a lot of creativity that we
didn't bother with too much previously. It has opened a whole new
world for
both of us and I LIKE it! Both of us remain orgasmic and enjoy each other
for longer periods of time than previously.
I can ditto [the]
suggestion
to look into adult sites for adult toys, including sexy films.(they
help my
libido a lot)
I know my partner misses "real intercourse" I think
mainly
because of the psychological implications of being neutered as he calls
it. But there is no lack of sensation on his part, the orgasms are as strong
as before.
The pump is coming this week so I guess that will cause a
flurry
of more activity. I am more attentive because I know how fragile he
feels
and it is very important for me to be as receptive and loving as
possible. Even if I am not in the mood, I would not object as I would have
previously.
This has helped our sex lives a great deal. The more we do it, the
more we
both want to do it. Activity feeds on itself, just as inactivity does.
Prior to RRP our sex lives needed a spark and the loss of erections
ironically provided it.
Note, too, that my partner was diagnosed with
kidney
cancer at the time of the abdominal scans immediately following the DX [diagnosis]
of
prostate cancer. He spent last summer undergoing two major surgeries,
the
kidney first, it being the most life-threatening. Both were found
early and
no further treatment was required. We feel lucky to have been
fortunate
enough to find them early and that has contributed to our positive
mental
state (lucky to be alive) which in turn contributes to our enjoyed,
appreciated, cherished ability to please each other in bed.
The lack
of a
hard penis really is NOT a problem for me. Would I like to see
erections
again? You bet!!! But primarily the greatest benefit would be the
psychological relief afforded my husband. I might be able to get him
to
agree with me.
"Carol"
[Images are for illustration only and do not represent those involved.]
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